Blowjobs the dominant way + 3 positions to try
Hey - Luka here!
Recently, I was thinking it would be useful to write down some of the ''moves'' and ''tricks'' you could use to be more dominant while receiving oral sex as a penis owner.
Although receiving oral sex puts you in a submissive position because at that moment your whole world is in another person's mouth, there are ways to control the situation and make you dominant.
Before you get to the very act of sucking a cock, you should talk about it, talk about expectations and what is allowed and what is not. Some will argue that talking about the scene in detail ruins the experience, but doing something your partner does not like mid-scene will kill the mood and the scene.
One of the things you should talk about and get consent for is where you want to cum. Ask your partner if they're okay with you coming on their belly, tits, pussy, face, or in their mouth (or wherever you want to do it). Also, before it actually happens, ask again as their decision and consent might change during the scene. And that does not have to be done in a super ''official and serious'' way - as you're about to come, you can say something like ''Oh baby, I'm going to come on your tits'' or ''I'm going to fill your mouth now'' or something similar. You definitely don't want to make it a surprise as it might not be a positive one. Other things you can talk about are: deepthroating, slapping, spitting, hair pulling, praising, degradation,...
Keep checking in with your partner. Again, you can do it casually by asking ''how do you like it baby?'' or similar questions.
Leaving your clothes on while receiving oral sex is another general tip that will make you feel and appear more dominant is to leave your clothes on. Naked often equals submissive. You can prepare beforehand and make your cock accessible by not wearing any underwear under the pants.
Another general tip I can give you is to position yourself comfortably, with a steady, balanced stance. It is of utmost importance that your partner assumes a position that is comfortable for them too, however, you'll instruct them on how to position themselves so it fits your wishes.
Even though you talked about what's going to happen and set some boundaries when you start the scene and have your partner where you want them, tell them what you want and expect of them. Not only this works towards getting the most pleasure, but you also assert yourself as dominant. What I do, for example, I hold my partner's head and tell her to look at me and tell her to keep the teeth away, not to touch my balls, and that I want deep and longer strokes.
If I have her kneeling in front of me, a great introduction to sucking my cock is holding her head closely and rubbing my cock onto her face, over my pants. Accompanied with some dirty talk, such as ''can you feel it grow?'' or ''are you ready to take it?'' it makes for a great intro and deepens your dominant position.
In the same position, I will have her spread her legs and have her hands behind her back, sometimes even handcuffed. Giving instructions and orders is another thing that deepens your domination. Remember, when instructions are followed, to follow back with feedback. This is important. Say something like a ''good girl'' or whatever other way of praising you might use or know your partner loves.
A couple of other things I do while having her in that position is holding her head while guiding her onto my cock, slowly if we just started or with a faster pace if I'm about to cum. Somewhere, mid-scene I might grab her hair on turn her head sideways (all done gently, of course), and stroke my shaft along her lips. This way, if you have a longer cock that your partner might not accommodate, their lips can reach the base of your penis. Either way, it feels absolutely great.
I also like resting my hands on my sides and letting her do all the work. I usually say something like: ''Let me see you work that cock'' or ''Show me how deep it can go'' which puts her in the submissive space and deepens my domination.
If you have a longer cock which your partner has trouble accomodating: through communication, insert your cock as much as they can take it, and have them put their hand on the rest of it, up to their mouth. This way their hand serves as a barrier, and you can keep guiding their head onto your cock or even facefuck them knowing that you won't go too deep because their hand/barrier won't let you go.
Another ''trick'' I want to share with you is using belts or neckties as a tool to guide them onto your cock. A move like this objectifies your partner because you basically make them a tool you're using to pleasure yourself. You are showing them you are using their mouth as a hole to fuck. Aside from being super hot, it also deepens power relations during the scene.
Choosing a position in which you want to deepthroat is a matter of preference, a matter of sexual exploration, and sometimes a matter of the direction in which your cock is curved.
I think of the penis owners have their cock upwards meaning that when you have your partner kneeling in front of you, the curvature of the penis is opposite of the direction of the mouth and throat, or in other words, that is not a great position for deepthroating.
However, if you have your partner lying down on their back, with their head hanging down from the edge of a table, or couch, the angle is much better.
Not only is the angle is better, but also you have access to their tits and genitalia. Making it also a more versatile position.
I like fingerbanging my partner, pressing her G-spot, or playing with her clit while also fucking her face. When I get her super turned on, she is more eager to take my cock in which is super pleasurable and great to watch.
When it looks like she might need a rest, I switch it up and go down and make out with her, then switch back to fucking her face again. This makes the scene dynamic and interesting. She also likes when I gently slap her with my hand or with cock. Slapping her with my cock and smearing the saliva all over her face is something we both like. I would say something like ''You're my good little slut, aren't you?'' or with my cock inside of her I'd say ''Nod your head if you're my good girl'' and nodding would only insert my cock even more inside.
Using dirty talk, praises or if you're into it, degradation can elevate and change the whole scene, from an average scene to the best in the world one. If you're not good at it, keep practicing. The easiest way to start is to describe either what you're going to do or what you'd like done to yourself. It's super simple and super hot.
Something we also tried, but she does not like so much is me holding her nose while having cock inside. This might be considered somewhat advanced because you're taking your partner's way of breathing (it's hard to breathe with cock inside of you). This adds domination, suspense, and panic element to everything. If you do it, do it for a short couple of seconds and let go, Your partner will gasp for air. If you have them on their back with their head hanging down, holding their nose will also stop saliva from entering the nose.
And the last position I'll mention today is the one illustrated above. Position yourself above your partner, either standing or kneeling comfortably, and either hold their hair (like in the illustration) and guide it onto your cock. Or hold their head steady and insert your cock inside them. While the position and the angles are not perfect for deepthroating, it is super sexy and dominating since your partner can't do absolutely anything with you being on top of them. You can expand on it by handcuffing your partner's hands in front of their belly.
The last handy tip I can give you is to keep a towel nearby. Your partner can spit or vomit and as much as this can be hot, cleaning afterward is not. Having a towel nearby might save you some trouble.
Have fun, stay kinky and drop a comment below. Would love to hear your thoughts on this and your own ideas.